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Baby Storm and Lessons in Minding Our Own Business

You would have to be living under a rock to not have heard the story about Baby Storm. We even touched on the story here on the Life360 blog last week, and websites, blogs, and news shows all over are still talking about Baby Storm and Storm’s family’s decision to keep the baby’s gender a secret.

Outside of Storm’s brothers, parents and the midwives who helped deliver the infant no one else knows whether Storm is a boy or a girl.

The parents made the choice to keep baby Storm’s gender a secret. This is not a far cry from how they’re choosing to raise their other children, two boys who occasionally dress in girl’s clothes and wear their hair long and in braids.

In my personal opinion, I say more power to them. Though they obviously won’t be able to (nor would they want to, I assume) actually try and raise Storm to be genderless through school, public restrooms alone end that theory right off the bat. But I firmly support trying to navigate a child away from the gender roles that society and many marketing, clothing and toy companies try and force young children into for as long as they possibly can.

If you would like to see proof of just how much society pressures young kids into gender roles, simply take a look at the hundreds of comments that have been made all over the Internet talking about this story. The fact that so many people think that baby Storm’s gender is any of their business, or that by not buying into what a clothing company says their child should be wearing that these parents are somehow hurting their child, is proof enough that they should keep the gender to themselves.

If there were a media storm about my child’s gender I would be working even harder to keep it secret. The true lesson of this story is not whether or not Kathy Witterick and husband David Stocker (Storm’s parents) decide to keep their child’s gender secret, because research has shown it’s not harmful and it’s not anyone else’s business, anymore than whether a mother is breastfeeding, co-sleeping, or whether she chooses cloth or disposable diapers is anyone else’s business. It’s simply NOT.

The lesson here is how obsessed we, as Americans, are with what other people are doing in their own homes, and how America needs to a serious lesson in minding our own business.

So please, the next time this comes up in conversation at the PTA meeting or you see a conversation online about it, make sure your response is, “Who Cares?”

America, let’s worry about our own homes and stop worrying about parents who aren’t doing anything but raising a baby the best way they know how. And to Kathy Witterick and husband David Stocker, more power to you.

  • Sarabeth

    Good point! It's crazy how America can try and get so involved in people's lives.

  • Susan Smith

    How did this story get on the news would be my question, if they didn't want the attentions they shouldn't talk to the news about it.

  • heather c

    I really don't care myself. We gave our child a genderless name so that no assumptions are made based on name alone. Who knows if that's the case in any situation our child has been in thus far?

  • Tina

    I agree with Susan – this isn't really news.

  • wholesale rings

    if they didn't want the attentions they shouldn't talk to the news about it.

  • Charity S

    I agree 100%! I don't have time to concern myself with other's business.

  • Michelle @womenwwin

    Talk about making the kid stick and feel confused! Parents are supposed to give gentle guidelines for life, not use their kids as social experiments.

  • sarrah d

    I have read about baby Storm and while Storm is still such a small child he/she is not affected by the parents choice, my heart went out to his sibliings. One of the boys has stated he didn't like going to public school because he was teased about wearing pink and having long hair. I think it is sad that the parents would allow their children to be hurt in such a way, just to prove a policial point.

  • Kelly Ann T.

    i must be one of the few people who didn't read the story because I just didn't care. I have so much more important things in my life that someone's kid who is not being abused or neglected holds no interest for me.

  • Denise B.

    The only thing that will come from this is gender confusion. I am not politically-correct and do not advocate cross-gendering in anything. A boy is a boy, and a girl is a girl, and should be raised as such.

  • Troy

    We do need to worry about what other parents are doing in their own homes with their children, because how they raise them will have a direct impact upon society in the future. While children may be children today, they may also be tomorrow's juvenile delinquent than career criminal (for example).

    When it comes to this issue, there is no question that these children will (one of the brothers already is) experience negative social peer relations in school; and there will be a future of teasing along with bullying. Today's bullying is not like it was 40 years ago when I was youger. It's a lot harsher where words are being used to kill (i.e. kids committing suicide based on how they are treated via MySpace and other social networking websites).

    I can go on and on, but the point is, today's children can become everyone's problem tomorrow in so many ways it should be of great concern to you. Think about that when you pay your property tax bill and see increase in taxes for civil services, jails, school bonds, etc.

  • Mary Joy Argo

    I agree on the parents' right to keep their child's gender to themselves, but why did they pass along their story to the media if they didnt want the attention?

  • ashley

    i completely agree with Michelle..and with everyone who is confused as to why they spoke to the news anyway…the whole situation just confuses me…parents can teach their children and help them grow to be anyone and anything regardless of their gender-clearly this family is scared of what their child will become, but that's partially their responsibility

  • Sue Denys

    Its their perogative to do what they want but I wouldn't do it myself.

  • Fran

    I don't care what they do, but they best look in the mirror when seeking to blame someone for the problems these children will encounter later.

  • Princess Seronica

    I can respect their their decision to raise their child the way they want to.

  • Kimberly

    I think it's odd, but it is their child and their right to raise their child gender-neutral. Hopefully the child will benefit as he or she grows up.