New Flash! Listen up readers because this one is doozy and a real eye opener!
Moms Multi-task More than dads, AND they’re not happy about it.
I know. I’ll give you a minute to let the shock wear off before I continue.
Well in case you needed proof results of some research done on the topic will be published in the December issue of the American Sociological Review.
Based on the men and women questioned on the study:
- Working moms engage in multitasking 48.3 hours each week, compared with fathers’ 38.9 hours. This means that 43% of a mom’s waking hours are spent doing more than one thing.
- Mom’s in the study reported that 53% of their multitasking at home is housework, while only 42% of multitasking is housework for dads.
- For moms 36% of the multitasking is childcare focused while dads reported only 28% of their multitasking time is childcare related.
“This helps explain why women feel more burdened than men,” says Shira Offer, lead author of the study and an assistant professor of sociology at Bar Ilan University in Israel. “It’s related not just to amount but to their experience when they multitask.”
What’s funny is as I sit here writing this post I am trying to drink a cup of coffee (before it gets cold like the last three I poured) jot down a shopping list and it’s taken me 25 minutes to write the first part of the post because I’ve also been answering emails related to school, work and personal. And guess what? No, I’m not happy about it. In fact the strong desire to take an aspirin and crawl into bed is growing more and more and will probably become a headache just as it’s time to go pick up the kids from school.
You may wonder what the importance of a study like this really is. I mean, will a study like this do to change anything? Well, the point of studies like this is not only to open the eyes of dads and partners everywhere that are not really taking an equal sharing of household duties, but also to help change the mindset and open the eyes of employers and policy-makers to take more steps towards making the workplace more family friendly for dads as well as moms. This way dad can also take time off to care for a sick child, attend conferences and ideally be more able to pick up the slack at home. This isn’t the only reason studies like this are vital, however. You see as moms continue to multitask and feel overwhelmed and exhausted and resent their partners for not stepping up and taking some of the load off another set of problems arise.
According to Jackie Frank, editor/ publisher, Marie Claire, said: “By 2020, depression will be the second biggest cause of disability worldwide after heart disease.” Guess what leads to depression? Ongoing stress. And what kind of things can the depression lead to? Alcohol and substance abuse, which has, even more detrimental effects on women than men.
This of course creates a vicious cycle. Depression in mothers has a much more devastating effect on children. Not only can a mother’s mental state literally effect her child’s growth but also the mental state of her children.
This is not about just “being fair” though that’s important. It’s about maintaining sanity in a chaotic world and preventing moms from simply falling apart. Or maybe I’m just slightly overreacting because I’ve got 700 things to do before I pick up the kids from school….
What do you think about this study?