The Mommy War: Don’t Buy the Hype

Moms, women and those of you with a vested interest in women, I have something to tell you that may shock you.

You may have heard the recent hubbub about Hilary Rosen and Ann Romney. You can read all the sorted details here. The interchange between the two women has dredged the age-old “mommy wars” again. If you’re not familiar with the debate, I’ve written about it before here and here. As you can see form these posts, I’m not a fan.

So I couldn’t help but write this post as a way to hopefully open the eyes of all the woman and moms out there. I will not play the political card here, I will simply say, don’t buy the hype.

For decades now politicians and the media and society for that matter have attempted to tell women what to do in regards to motherhood. Whether we should breastfeed, co-sleep, wait, start early, and most importantly work or not work.

The truth is the only time this debate comes up is during a slow news cycle or during an election. The “Mommy Wars” is a great way to use smoke and mirrors to distract female voters from the issues that really matter. Education, the economy, women’s rights, equal pay, war, foreign affairs, agriculture, jobs, etc.

The politicians running for office don’t want us, the women, to call them on their crap. So when a small exchange occurs between women from two different camps they try and twist into something more. Imagine the powerless Wizard in the Wizard of Oz saying, “Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!”

I say, screw that.

We are moms. We are smart, we are tough, and we are diligent and loyal and capable of anything. We work our butts off every single day more than any non-parent or man (with the exception of Stay at home dads or single dads, who are welcome to join us) would understand. I’m not referring to just moms who work outside the home, or stay at home moms, or even work at home moms like me who get left in the dust during these ridiculous debates.

We ALL work out tails off, and guess what? We are the voting majority. There are more of us in the workplace, and more of us at home. There are more of owning homes and more of raising children.

Ladies, we are in control. I say call your senator, call your congressman call Mitt Romney and every other politician who thinks they get a say in what we do.

Tell them, to leave out the mommy war crap and start talking about the issues that matter. Leave the smoke and mirrors to David Copperfield. Because we’re not falling for it. There are no mommy wars. And to the next politician who tries to make us think there is one he better know this, we’re moms, we’re pissed, we’re in this together, and we’re registered to vote.